0.01% trolls and spammers generating a lot of noise<\/a>.<\/p>\nWhat does that mean? Does it mean that you should only wait until everyone is ready and accepting of bisexuality\/homosexuality before you accept yourself? No, of course not. What if this happens in only 50 years? Are you going to wait for 50 years before you can accept yourself and embrace your bisexuality? That\u2019s terrible and also incredibly damaging to your mental well-being and growth.<\/p>\n
My advice is this: Don\u2019t wait for others\u2019 approval or acceptance for you to be who you are. Start to accept and love yourself, all of you, including your bisexuality.<\/strong> Figure out what\u2019s blocking in your acceptance of your bisexuality, and address that. The problem isn\u2019t with your family and their views (as you said they don\u2019t care who or what you are), your straight guy friends and their possible rejection of your friendship, or your girlfriend, but how you see bi\/homosexuality and as a corollary, yourself.<\/p>\nAs you work on your self-acceptance, decide who you want to open up to about your bisexuality.<\/strong> Your girlfriend for sure, because you owe it to her to tell the truth. Your parents possibly, because they are your parents and you said that they don\u2019t care about who or what you are. Selected friends\u00a0whom you can trust. Your straight guy friends \u2014 if you are ready and you want them to know. Alternatively, you can choose not to tell them about your true sexuality and continue to hang out as social buddies. But you should most definitely find new buddies who non-judgmental about different sexualities, because good friends are people who care about you as you, not your physical or social attributes.<\/p>\nAs you work on your self-acceptance, you will stop being troubled by others\u2019 perception of bisexuality and of you, even though these may continue to be obstacles in how you can connect with the world. For example, you want to share your bisexuality only with trusted people and if it\u2019s safe to do so, depending on the social environment you live in.<\/p>\n
Obviously, the best case scenario is to live as your true self and have the society accept you 100% as who you are, but the reality is often not perfect. It isn\u2019t for many people, even for heterosexuals. Many people today live with limitations caused by factors outside of their control, be it where they are born, their race, the opportunities they were given growing up, genetic health problems they had no say over, or in your case, having a sexual identity that\u2019s not as widely understood or accepted as the default sexual identity. In the face of these imperfections, it\u2019s about finding an equilibrium between living life as best as you can and managing the imperfections. Rather than hate the world for what it is, or hate our lives for what is not perfect, let\u2019s try to make the best out of what we have and manage the other things that are not that great\u00a0yet<\/em>. Because we can\u2019t control the cards we are dealt with, but we can choose how we deal with these cards.<\/p>\nI hope this post has been helpful in some way and you are able to pick the right way forward for yourself. Keep me posted on how it goes okay? \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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